In a recent study at the University of California at Berkeley, researchers discovered that money does not bring people happiness, but respect from others does. In Eric Weiner’s book The Geography of Bliss: One Grumps Search for the Happiest Places on Earth, he learned that people are happiest when they have a sense of belonging to the people and place where they live, and when they feel they have people in their lives whom they can trust. It is not the quantifiable things, such as money, possessions, and luxury vacations that contribute to our happiness, but the quality of our relationships and sense of being, through respect, trust, reliability, kindness, and connection to a family and/or community, that contribute to the state of being we call happiness.
Happiness, Nirvana, Bliss, Heaven, Enlightenment, Peace, Joy. Everybody wants to have happiness, to seek enlightenment, or to find heaven. As long as we are desiring, grasping, chasing, seeking, searching, and pursuing, we will never find something we cannot possess in the first place. Constantly craving an inner state that can’t be quantified only contributes to our suffering. We can be happy where ever we are. When we nurture our relationships by being kind, respectful, loving, giving, and compassionate, we will receive the same in return, and our lives will become abundant and bountiful in unexpected ways.
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Simple truth. I read this book about a year ago and found it entertaining and enlightening. Even a constant craving for happiness will lead to it’s opposite!
Very nicely said, you drew a clear distinction between having and being. Eric Fromm wrote a whole study on this, stating that “modus of having” is destructive for the personality and creates many problems, and of course, unhappiness. Buddhists have a nice point of view on the issue of happiness. They view it as emotion, just like any other emotional state, and person’s craving to be happy, is just another habit of mind that creates suffering. Suffering is created not by happiness or unhappiness, but by habit of mind towards reaction, by our habit towards craving and aversions. The state of perfect equanimity – ability to accept present moment without judgement – is the goal of Buddhist practice.