This month’s Bloggers for Peace Challenge is Peace at Home. Having a peaceful home life makes us more likely to extend that peace outside the home, much like having inner peace is a key to having world peace. But how do we create a peaceful home, especially when there can be other strong egos to co-habitate with? We can try to teach, nag, or complain to family members about being more compassionate and selfless, but as many of us have experienced, this usually doesn’t lead to any changes. We can’t control others, not even our parents, partners, siblings, or children, but we can control how we behave, act, and respond to the situations and dynamics in the home.
Peace at home begins with each of us. By setting aside our egos’ desires to argue with our siblings, talk back to our parents, or control our spouses or children, and instead acting with understanding and compassion for their struggles and challenges in their lives, we set the foundation for peaceful and loving relationships in the home. When we accept others as they are, we remove the selfish clutter hiding our hearts. And by setting an example of love and peace, love and peace will grow in other’s hearts too.
The family unit and home life is a community, just as each of us is also part of larger communities: work, school, neighborhood, country, and the world. We can’t individually bring peace to the world, but we can work towards peace within ourselves and in our personal communities. From there may peace spread!
Perceiving now the faults possessed by the ego, and the ocean of good qualities that are in others, I shall lay aside all selfishness, and gain the habit of accepting other beings. Just as hands and other limbs are thought of as members of a body, can we likewise not consider others as the limbs and members of a living whole?
While you are proclaiming peace with your lips, be careful to have it even more fully in your heart.
For it is in giving that we receive.
Lord, grant me the strength to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.
– Mother Theresa
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