Butterfly Journal 6th Month: Patience (Entry #1)


So far on our caterpillars’ metamorphic journey, we have grown from Self-reflection, Truth, Faith, Awareness, and Acceptance. Now we are half way through our journey, and it’s time to take a pause. Not a break, but a pause to take in some deep breaths to soak in all that has come to light about ourselves and to exhale out all that we no longer want or need. In the process that has led us to this point, many of us may have already noticed the amount of patience required for growth. Patience develops from acceptance and leads to a sense of peace within.

For the sixth month, think about the people or things in your life that you need to be more patient with, including yourself. What can, or do, you do to bring the serenity of patience into those situations? And, where along your metamorphic path have you struggled to be patient? Keep in mind that patience is a continuous practice, and as with all practices, it does get better with time. 

A friend of mine once said, “If you pray to God for patience, you’ll keep getting all sorts of situations that will challenge you to be patient!” As humorous as her statement was, it is true that life is full of opportunities for us to learn and practice patience. I’ve been told that I am incredibly patient, and it is true that the greater the stress I am under, the calmer I get. However, that does not mean I don’t experience situations where I need to work on being patient.

As those who have been following along with these Butterfly Journal entries, you know that my mother’s personality and sociopathic behaviors try my patience nearly every day. This past week she has absolutely refused to do anything anyone asks her to (which is usually simple things like please get dressed, please sit down, please leave that alone…). It’s her normal MO (before Alzheimer’s) to not want to do whatever it is someone asks of her. So, this week has been full of her knowingly ignoring others, doing the opposite of what she’s asked, and being defiant and/or violent.

So, what do I do? How do I stay or return to a state of calm when faced with this? The most important thing I do, is breathe deeply. Any stressful situation causes our muscles to tighten, including the muscles attached to the ribcage (and there are a lot – from the neck, on the back, between the ribs, on the chest, from the abdomen, and within the ribcage, the diaphragm). Our heart rate also increases, and both of these physical reactions to stress cause us to take shallower and shorter breaths. Deep, slow breathing is maybe the quickest natural remedy for calming down. If my mother settles down, I may continue on to more specific Pranayama practices. Occasionally, I will even chant Mantras. Chanting or singing hymns has been a powerful practice for me since I could barely talk, and when feeling stressed it disperses the negative and agitated energy easily.

Like most of us, I can also make myself stressed and impatient by worrying about all the things that need to get done, or carrying residual feelings of being upset from something that happened yesterday, and so on. All forms of Yoga have been an integral part of my daily life for much of my life, and these practices have helped me manage and work through some very trying times with patience and grace.


Yoga Tree

Another practice that has helped me a lot with working with the challenges of my present situation has been my “rooftop yoga.” It’s exactly what it sounds like: I do yoga on the roof. It may be a vinyasa practice, a yin yoga practice, a sitting meditation practice, some pranayama, chanting, or a combination thereof. These practices all work wonders for the body, mind, and soul, but it is the location that adds extra emotional and spiritual support: from the nurturing radiance of the Sun, from the flutters and smiles of the various butterflies, from the chirping and chanting birds that hang out in the garden below, from the extra balancing challenges that the wind that also carries away irritation for me brings, from the energy of the two giant redwoods and the palm tree nearby, and especially from what I call “Yoga Tree.” Yoga Tree doesn’t look like much but it is filled with all sorts of birds – doves, sparrows, finches, blue jays, bushtits, chickadees, hummingbirds, and crows, living patiently and in harmony with each other, with the tree, with Mother Earth, and with Source. Yoga Tree reminds me that our natural nature is to live patiently at peace, in harmony, and in union/yoga with all in the Universe.

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24 Responses to Butterfly Journal 6th Month: Patience (Entry #1)

  1. BloomLisa says:

    You are such a beautiful & generous soul. I am grateful every day that our paths have crossed. Blessings to you Julie!!

  2. Dilip says:

    Oh yes Pranayama is surely the best way to connect with our inner-self. Pranayama practice done regularly heals our emotional and physical problems. Thank you for this excellent post.
    Namaste 🙂

  3. I saw the Yoga Tree when I did your reading. I have 2 yoga trees, but I call them Benny & June and I too observe the harmony that exist between all the various bird species.

    I admire you so much, it must be very trying to deal with alzheimers.
    Much love butterfly~

    ❀✫ ღ✿ƸӜƷ ✿ღ ✫❀

  4. I HAVE to enter into a mind set of patience when I work with my horses on the ground. Otherwise the game is over, they win.

  5. I really enjoy your entries, so informative and enlightening. Thank you!

  6. Aggie says:

    What grace here! … I know it’s not proper, but I used to do pranayama while on my morning runs, so that I could have time for both. I will try it again as a walking/running meditation. Thank you.,, How do you counsel self and others about the difference between patience and acceptance of abuse? … Love, Aggie

    • I think we all multitask at times! 🙂 That’s a huge question with so many layers to the answer, much depending on where the individual is in their spiritual understanding and psychological/emotional state. Way too much to write out here.

      • Aggie says:

        I was hoping to generate a new post, or series. 😉

      • Hmmm…possibly. We’ll see. It is really such a huge and heavy question, something I would address during a counseling/coaching session. I’ll think about it. Maybe the Butterfly Journal posts will meander that way. It will be addressed in one of the books I am working on: Journey of the Wounded Healer.

      • Aggie says:

        That sounds good. I guess I could make my own attempt. Hmm… I agree it’s a big topic.

  7. fozziemum says:

    I love your Yoga tree ..a tree full of life and harmony moving with the wind not against it..Trees amaze me with their ability to go with the wind on some occasions ..calmly and with elegance and grace and yet other times they fight fiercely against it even if they know it will break them..knowing when to breathe and go with the flow and when to fight fiercely against things despite the resulting hurt is indeed a conundrum for us..so breathe and think about it and be patient. Hugs Bev xx

  8. I am breathing better just by reading this, blessings for the reminder.

  9. Keep breathing, great advice and always at our disposal! You get calmer with increased stress? Please blog about how you accomplish this feat 🙂
    Namaste patient Julie!

    • Haha, I don’t know. The stress dealing with my mom is annoying, but nothing compared to some of the situations I’ve experienced (abuse, stalking, being attacked). Somehow, though I could be having a panic attack at the same time, it’s like I slow down time to calculate what is best to do.

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